You made it! You’ve got admission to your dream college and you’re about to move to the brand new city of Bangalore. There’s so much to explore, learn and see. But you can’t help the nerves that come along with the excitement. Especially, since you’re a bit of an introvert who likes your own space. And the quintessential college experience of living in a dorm or PG can be awkward, unfamiliar, and even uncomfortable for someone who prefers their alone time. But we understand that you also appreciate the opportunity to find like-minded people and don’t really want to end up a total loner either.
Yes we know how easy it is to come across as a rude person when all you want is some days where you can keep to yourself! If you’ve never been one for light conversation or small talk, don’t worry. We’re here to tell you that living with other people can still be an awesome experience, even for introverts. Here are some easy ways for you to skip past the awkwardness and still develop a relationship with your roommates:
Embrace your differences
When you’re moving into a pg for girls in Bangalore, you’re contending with a new city and a new living space. So you’ve already got a lot of adjustments to make. But getting along with your new roommates doesn’t have to be one of them. Understand that you don’t have to be exact clones of each other to be “good” roommates. In fact, you may not have much in common. They may be more outgoing or build relationships more easily, and they may have different needs and ways of doing things. That’s totally okay. Think of it as an opportunity for you to push your comfort zone, find compromises, and share some great experiences that you otherwise would have skipped out on. You might even end up learning more about yourself by doing so.
You’ve been hearing this since kindergarten but honesty really is the best policy. If you don’t want to end up feeling uncomfortable in your own space, it’s best to have an open discussion with your roommates about your preferences in terms of living habits. Communicate to them if you like nights to yourself or if you need your own spac. Your roommate(s) will appreciate the candour and be able to recognize your preferences without taking things personally. This will help make everyone just so much more comfortable and at ease rather than feeling unwelcome and confused.
Set a time to hang out
Okay, whether you’re an introvert or not, the biggest advantage of living with roommates is that you’ll never run out of people to chill with should you need company. So whether it’s once or twice a month, or every weekend, it’s great to set a time to hang out with your roommate. Of course, you can have impromptu hangouts or schedule them more often, depending on what you’re comfortable with. Get creative: watch a movie, get dinner together, or simply just spend time in the same space, coworking or on your phones. This can help you become more comfortable and effortlessly build a relationship with your roommate. A bonus tip – if your roommate has a spot they go to often with their friends, you could even try to break out of your shell and join them once in a while. Making that extra effort to get to know them and their lives can make a huge difference. You may even end up becoming friends!
Try shopping together
You’ve probably already heard of retail therapy, but we’re talking about taking it one level up by shopping together, roommate style. Don’t just hit up the high-end malls or street shopping junctions. Shopping together for home goods and groceries which you can both use is a really easy place to start. By doing this, you can get to know each other’s preferences as well as make collective decisions for your living space. And it’s a great way to bond (and also get household chores done), without putting too much social pressure on you. Especially if you’re making a home for yourself in one of the coliving spaces in Bangalore, this can be an activity that brings you closer to your roommates and reduces your household expenses (bulk buying for the win!) with minimal effort.
So even if you’re an introvert, there’s no reason for you to have to feel awkward around your roommates. Just keep our tips in mind, and don’t be too hard on yourself. When you move to a new city, bring your complete self, walking into your college dorm or PG with your head held high. You’ve got this!